When I left secondary school in 1972 one of the guys thought it would be fun to meet up in a few years, but realising we could be at the far flung corners of the universe, he suggested we meet up on 29 February (easy date to remember, right?), at the Portland Dive Bars in Manchester, eight years after we'd all gone our separate ways. That way he wouldn't have to try to keep in touch with everyone, or post an announcement in the papers, and of course, in those days, there was no internet and no Friends Reunited.
I stayed in touch with a couple of guys from school, and when the time came we remembered our leap year date. In our last year there were around 80 students and about 15 turned up for the first reunion. It was not an organised affair; no speeches, no band, no refreshments, except what you bought from the bar. It was interesting to see how people had progressed in eight years, who was working, who was climbing the greasy pole in their chosen field, who was dead, in prison, missing in action, etc. A few of the guys went on to a club later, but that was never my scene, so I called it a night at that point.
Geoff, the guy who's been organising this thing, keeps an old school notebook, and every time we meed he records who's there, what time they arrived and changes of address. Of course, these days it's easier to keep tabs on people through email, even if they've moved house several times.
I didn't go to the last one. I'd been going to each one and it became the same old thing each time. The same dozen guys turning up, talking about the same old things but eight years ago I realised I wasn't enjoying it, and when the last one came around I really didn't fancy it. So, when Geoff rang me I told him I'd had enough and wouldn't be going again.
That would have been the case this time too, except that Malcolm, an old friend of mine who'd moved to Canada in 71, is back in England doing a Masters Degree in Graphic Design at Sunderland Uni. He came to stay with us between Christmas and New Year, and my wife organised for three of our best school friends who we've managed to keep in touch with, to come around and chew the fat. One of the guys mentioned that the reunion was coming up and Malcolm said it might be fun to go, seeing as he'd only seen the four of us on a couple of occasions since he left. We all agreed to go, and I picked up Malcolm from the station on the 29th and we had our traditional Friday night chip-shop tea before heading down to the pub in Didsbury.
It was pretty weird for Malcolm, because two of the guys who turned up had been really good friends with us during our school days, and I'd seen them at previous reunions, but Malcolm hadn't seen them for 35 years and not only did he not recognise them, they didn't recognise him!!
As before, around a dozen of us turned up and we had a small room in the pub almost to ourselves which meant we could all hear most of the conversations that were going on. Having Malcolm there meant that a lot of very old stuff was talked about, not just what had happened since the last meet up. Things were mentioned that either I didn't remember at all, or remembered differently. That was very strange for me. What had been insignificant to me stuck firmly in other people's minds, some of it specifically involving me.
It also seemed that the guys had mellowed since the last time I met them. They were more laid back, possibly less bothered about telling everyone about their glittering careers, and a couple were hoping to retire soon. One or two had had near death experiences and serious health problems, which I suppose is only to be expected in our advancing years and I'm sure this will have affected their outlook on life.
So it wasn't the ordeal I'd been expecting after all and assuming I'm still around in 2012 I'll probably go to the next one.